Hidden Codes & Hidden Agendas–Endgame Expanded

Endgame Expanded

 

Next week I will return to “Interrogator Lessons,” but after some recent events, it seemed to me that endgame needed more attention.

 

In “Hidden Codes & Hidden Agendas—VI” we discussed what I believe to be the third component of human interaction—endgame. The blog broke endgame into three types—ideal endgame, predatory endgame, and mutable endgame. For the sake of brevity, I have reposted this blog for easy reference and review.

 

The response to Endgame was mixed. Sometimes I think we humans balk against simplicity, believing life has to be far more complex than it really is. Yet, Occam’s Razor states, “All other things being equal, the simplest solution is the best.” And I feel that, even in relationships, the law of parsimony stands true. I believe it is our desire to make things complicated that often undermines even the best-laid plans of mice and men.

 

I created the blog series Hidden Codes & Hidden Agendas to share my unique skill set to help the reader “unearth” the true intent and motivations behind his actions. If we don’t know our end destination or our purpose for the journey, it is easy to digress and become lost. We all have agendas. There is nothing inherently wrong with that. Yet, so often we are unaware of our intent, of the emotions driving us, and therein is where problems arise.

 

But I believe I need to offer this caveat. Humans, although not necessarily complex, are very dynamic. Relationships don’t exist in a vacuum. They are fluid and shift continually, often in response (or reaction) to outside forces. Our position on Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs is rarely static.

 

I can wake up in the morning sitting squarely near the top of the pyramid. At this point, life is good. I have food, safety, shelter (Tier One—Basic Needs). My bills are paid, family is healthy, and everything at work is running like a well-oiled machine (Tier Two—Need for Security). I have a great guy who thinks I’m the bee’s knees (Tier Three—Friendship, Family, Intimacy). Because everything is going so great, I am able to find a nice comfy seat on Tier Four (Self-Esteem, Confidence, Respect of Others). Who isn’t confident when life is grand? At this point, I’m thinking Tier Five (Self Actualization) should be a done deal by lunchtime.

 

Oh, but one problem…life. When our world is running too smoothly, all of us feel that twinge of, “All right. When is all hell going to break loose?”